“Let us not be satisfied with just giving money. Money is not enough, money can be got, but they need your hearts to love them. So, spread your love everywhere you go” ~ Mother Teresa
In ‘The Law of Giving’ Deepak Chopra says;
“The universe operates through dynamic exchange; Giving and receiving are different aspects of the flow of energy in the universe.
And in willingness to give that which we seek, we keep the abundance of the universe circulating in our lives”
What is it then that you seek?
Start giving what you seek, and you shall have it!
Running out of ideas as to what gifts to give your loved ones, partner and friends, should not be a problem anymore.
You don’t have to worry or concern yourself too much, because you already have all the gifts in your ‘bag’.
Where can you shop for these precious gifts?
Don’t look too far, because it is where ever you are! It is within you. You also have the ‘currency’ to give the best gifts there are in life.
I’d like to make some gift suggestions for this festive season:
The Gift of respect
My mom used to say, ‘Respect goes a long way’ and as a child I did not quite understand what that meant. But I soon learnt that to respect someone is to have sensitivity. This is at the core of respect. Accepting the person as they are without wanting to change them to suit us; fully acknowledging their values, culture, identity and who they want to be; valuing their contributions, opinions and inputs and genuinely listening to them and sharing their concerns.
In every relationship respect goes hand-in-hand with love and commitment. To honour and respect your loved one’s feelings as if they are your own, shows that you respect them.
Respecting another has to be built on the recognition that they are fully functional and remarkably capable people. Your partner may not be as good as you are at organization, or cooking, or gardening or whatever. But, guess what? You aren't as good as they are at many things either. Which of you is better? The only answer in a successful partnership is neither!
The Gift of understanding
Ray Charles does a lovely rendition of the old song -
“Understanding is the best thing in the world, between a boy and a girl, even man and a woman, it’s always better when you really understand. You know understanding is a mighty powerful thing”
Yes, understanding is the best thing in a relationship!
Wisdom is the ultimate level of understanding. Wisdom consists of making the best use of knowledge about someone, which means a deep understanding of another.
The Gift of kindness
‘It’s more important to be kind, than it is to be right’ – Karlo Montalbano
I am sure you have heard this expression many times before, but it is ignored so many times in our relationships. Why, because of our EGO SELF!
Insisting on having your right is the work of ego, and off course ego is based on fear! Right?
There is one choice you can make that will heal many of your relationship problems. This is the choice of kindness - to both yourself and to others. Kindness to yourself and to others comes from a desire to support your own highest good and the highest good of others.
Let go of your need to be right, and give the gift of kindness and see how it works magic in your relationships!
The Gift of compassion
Compassion is one of the fundamental life forces in relationships!
Compassion means feeling empathy and having a true understanding of what someone is going through. You may have compassion for others but do you have compassion for yourself? If you don't have compassion for yourself you may also find that you don't have compassion for others.
Compassion includes 3 keys - understanding, acceptance and forgiveness. These 3 qualities or states of mind should be applied to your life under any circumstances.
Trust is formed when we display compassion. What a great gift!
The Gift of forgiving
Holding on to past resentments is like holding on to a hot coal!
Full Forgiveness empowers you to drop the hot coal that has been burning you.
“If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive.” - Mother Theresa
Forgiveness works! It is often difficult, BUT it works! To not forgive others is like taking the poison (continuing to suffer for what they did or didn't do to you) and expecting THEM to die!
Forgiveness can be a gift that we give to others, but more importantly to ourselves!
The Gift of tolerance
Tolerance is having the capacity to accept and recognize with respect the differences and the beliefs of others.
“When we gain the awareness that all of us are connected in this universe – with the same divine intelligence running through each and every one of us – and that the higher self is knowable and real, then all the surface satisfactions of dominating, controlling and judging others become unappealing.” – Dr Wayne Dyer
By replacing dominance with tolerance, you begin to feel relaxed and stop the false thinking that your partner and others in your life needs to be dominated or controlled by you or that others must live up to your expectations for you to be happy!
And most importantly, the Gift of LOVE!
I just love the way Bob Marley sings ‘One Love, One heart, let’s get together and feel alright’!
It’s such a feel-good song! And that is what love is supposed to do, make you feel good, because the love is inside of you!
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love”- Paul to the Corinthians
Doesn’t this say it ALL?
LOVE is like a magnet, the more you give, the more you will have!
If you want Love, you must first Love. Love begets Love. You cannot deliver from an empty wagon. You must first learn to Love yourself before you can give Love.
So… let’s get together and Give the GREATEST GIFT OF ALL!
Just Imagine what a great FESTIVE SEASON this could be!
I wish you PEACE, LOVE, JOY AND ABUNDANCE