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October 16, 2019

Most of us at some stage of our lives have lost a love partner, either in divorce or we have decided to end the relationship for some or other reason beyond our control. This can be a painful experience. I know, I've been there!

This experience often leaves us with feelings of fear, sadness and we feel a strong attachment to the person and what the relationship meant to us.  

It's our attachment to circumstances or people who no longer match us that prevents us from attracting someone new or manifesting something of greater value into our lives.

Usually what prevents us from breaking free is our fear of being without that which we are familiar with. Uncertainty about the future keeps us doing the rounds in our safe little hamster wheel. Yet eventually our complacency leads to dissatisfaction, which then leads to more pain unless we make a change.

If we remain in a comfort zone of that which are familiar even though it is painful, it becomes the breeding grounds for misery.

However, if we are courageous and brave to step out into the unknown; that is where we discover new things. It's the space from where fresh perspectives and creativity arise.

With a little help from Humanistic Neuro-Linguistic Psychology you can learn how to change your neuro-chemistry so that you can experience greater freedom to be able to control your thoughts and to manifest the kinds of feelings that you want in your life!

So how can you start to make that change?

How do you get over and let go of that person that you no longer want to think about?

How do you let go of the thoughts that go around and around in your mind?





Step 1.     Take the mental picture which you have of her/him and imagine sending it off into the distance so that it becomes small and far away.

Step 2.     Imagine there is a cord that joins you to that person, a metaphoric representation of the bond which you used to have with her/him. Now see yourself cutting through that cord or untying it so that it not longer connects you to her/him.

Step 3.     Should that old picture of him/her pop up again, just send it off, making it small, distant and dull.

Step 4.     Each time you clear your mind of unwanted internal representations in the above way, immediately bring to mind that which you want instead. Make this image large, larger, yes even larger! (What you want -desired image- is a new image of something that makes you happy)

Step 5.     With your desired image in the foreground of your awareness, notice how you feel and let that feeling inspire appropriate action.


You will already feel a new sense of lightness, and the emotional sadness will lift as this new image takes over.


This skill won't shove anyone out of your mind (and life), but will enable you to make room for the things that are of more important to you now.

Practice it as best you can and often as you can, and sooner or later you'll find that it makes a huge difference.

Oh ... and remember to keep your 



own dreams in your mental foreground!

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